Monday, April 25, 2011

Uncontested divorce

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If both spouses agree that marriage is to finish and arrive at a mutually satisfactory agreement regarding the settlement of final divorce, you have an uncontested divorce.

In an uncontested divorce, the couple is able to reach agreement on issues such as the Division of property, child support, spousal support and any other financial problems.

In an uncontested divorce there is no need for lawyers or hearings. In situations where there are children involved or the Division of marital property is wise to seek the advice of a divorce lawyer before signing any final legal documents.

Also, if there is the issue of child support a child support order must be signed by a judge. This will probably require both parties to be present during the hearings to determine the amount of child support agreement meets guidelines, child custody and support of States. And if not whether individuals have reached an agreement on just and equitable in the eyes of the Court.


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Utah divorce laws

RESIDENCY REQUIREMENTS AND WHERE TO FILE:

In order to file for a divorce in Utah, the applicant or the defendant must be an actual bona fide resident of this State and County where the action is brought, or whether members of the armed forces of the United States that are not legal residents of this Statewhere the applicant has been stationed in this State under military orders, for three months next before the commencement of the action. [Based on code Utah 30-3-1]

LEGAL GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE:

Grounds for divorce are as follows:

The impotence of the defendant at the time of the marriage. Adultery committed by the respondent as a result of marriage. Signer's willful desertion by the respondent for more than a year. Intentional negligence of the defendant to provide for the petitioner to town life. The defendant's habitual drunkenness. The defendant's conviction for a crime. Cruel treatment of the petitioner by the respondent to the extent of causing injury or great mental anguish for the petitioner. Irreconcilable differences of the marriage. Incurable insanity. When the husband and wife lived separately under a separate maintenance Decree of each State for three consecutive years without cohabitation.

[Based on code Utah 30-3-1]

MEDIATION OR COUNSELING REQUIREMENTS:

If the applicant and the respondent has a child or children, a divorce cannot be granted until both parties have attended the course of compulsory education and presented a certificate of completion of the course to the Court. The Court may waive this requirement on its own initiative or on the motion of a party, if it determines the completion and the presence of course are not necessary, appropriate, feasible or in the interest of the parties. [Based on code Utah 30-3-4]

PROPERTY DISTRIBUTION:

Utah was equitable distribution, which means that if the parties do not agree, the property will be distributed fairly, not necessarily equally. When a long-lasting marriage dissolves on the threshold of a major change in income of one spouse by the collective efforts of both, that change is considered in dividing marital property and in determining the amount of food. If one spouse's earning capacity has been greatly improved thanks to the efforts of both spouses during the marriage, the Court may issue an adjustment compensator in dividing the marital property and food allocation. The Court must also include an order by specifying which party is responsible for the payment of debts, obligations or joint liability of the parties contracted or incurred during the marriage. [Based on code Utah 30-3-5]

MAINTENANCE/ALIMONY/SPOUSAL SUPPORT:

Of the spouses may be granted, and the Court may consider the fault of the parties in determining foods. The Court will consider all relevant facts and fair principles and may, at its discretion, based on the standard of living foods that existed at the time of trial. The Court takes into account at least the following factors determine foods:

Financial condition and needs of the spouse recipient; Earning capacity of the recipient or the ability to produce income; The payor spouse's ability to provide support; The length of the marriage; If the recipient spouse has custody of minors needing support; If the recipient spouse has worked in a business owned or operated by the payor spouse; and if the spouse recipient directly contributed to any increase in the ability of the payor spouse paying for education received by the payor spouse or allowing the payor spouse to attend school during the marriage.

[Based on code Utah 30-3-5]

NAME OF SPOUSE:

Although there are no specific provisions for the restoration of the maiden name of wife on divorce, there is a general provision that allows such change on petition to the Court. Any natural person, eager to change his name, he may submit a petition in the District Court of the County in which he resides, setting forth:

The cause for which he sought the name change. The proposed name. He was a bona fide resident of the County for the year immediately before filing the petition.

[Based on code Utah 42-1-1]

CHILD CUSTODY:

The Court considers, in any case, the possibility of joint custody, but can grant any form of custody, which is determined to be in the best interest of the child. In the determination of any form of custody, the Court will consider the interests of.

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In determining whether the best interests of the child will be served by ordering joint custody or legal, the Court shall take into account the following factors:

If you need physical, psychological and emotional development of the child will benefit from joint custody or legal. The ability of parents to give priority to the welfare of the child and reach shared decisions in the best interest of the child. If each parent is able to encourage and accept a positive relationship between the child and the other parent, including the sharing of love, affection and the contact between the child and the other parent. If both parents participated in raising a child before divorce. The geographical proximity of the houses of their parents. The preference of the child if the child is of sufficient age and capacity to reason in order to form an intelligent preference for joint custody or legal. The maturity of the parents and their willingness and ability to protect the child from conflict that may arise between the parents. The ability of parents to cooperate with others and make decisions together past and present. Any history of, or potential for child abuse, spouse abuse or kidnapping. Any other factors the Court considers relevant.

[Based on code Utah 30-3-10]


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Reasons for divorce

Making the decision to divorce can be a complicated issue. Most divorces occur due to marital problems have solutions, but the parties to the marriage lacked the skills necessary to solve these problems. However, there are problems that should send marital running for an Office of divorce lawyers.

All this is a matter of opinion, in my opinion. Nobody should take the decision to divorce lightly, but there are cases where the divorce is the only solution. If you found in one of the situations to come to the decision of divorce should be easy.

Physical or emotional abuse:

If he/she hits you once happen again. You shouldn't stay in a marriage beyond that first punch, slap or push. NO excuses for someone who hits you, do not take the blame for someone hitting you. Violence is on the need to control and to exercise a power above a spouse, it is not a spouse to love.

Domestic abuse is available in several forms. Your spouse can physically abusing or emotionally abuse you. Scream, scream, name calling and put downs are not acceptable forms of behaviour. For their own safety and that of your children you must leave.

Infidelity:

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Infidelity is very similar to domestic abuse; This is a behavior which repeats. A spouse will be cheat for many reasons, what you; the victim of infidelity must understand is that there is never a good reason.

Economic tensions:

You've heard the term "financial infidelity?" If your spouse is spending money and put a strain on the family income are committing financial infidelity. Your spouse may have a shopping or gambling addiction that are hidden from you. He/she may be running up credit card debt that you do not know about.

The question for you is, do you allow someone else problem is buried in debt or not to make excuses? Being married to someone like this can mean years of recovery and is usually repeated behavior over and over again.

Drug or alcohol addiction:

It is impossible to solve an addict. Stay for some reason though, those married addicts in marriage, believing that they can somehow illegal change. A drug addict changes when making the choice to change. An addict does not change, because they see their spouse or children suffer. Do not change until they hit rock bottom and only the addict knows what his rock bottom.

If you're lucky, the thought of losing her family will mean a positive change in a drug addict. If you are lucky and choose to stay in the marriage you can bet that the addict will bring their families with them.


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Life after divorce

You've gone through the process of divorce. You have taken care of all legal and financial issues. Now you face, finally the emotional problems of healing. What you feel?

Post divorce emotions can range from feelings of insecurity, confusion, anger, ambivalence, and in some cases shear relief. Life as we know it is over and now you have the job of building a new life. This requires work, internal and external work.

To set your world just outside it may be necessary to find a new home, build new friendships, start a new career or learn to live life as a single parent. The inside job consists of treating and working through any left over attachments to your ex. You may need to work through problems with anger over an unwanted divorce. You can experience fear the idea of living without a spouse who was once a sense of security. Whatever you have to do with either externally or internally, it is necessary to develop certain skills to help you in your transition to a new life.

Here are three skills that will help you to rebuild after a time of adversity:

Opening:

Be willing to share that feeling and experiencing emotionally with others. If talking through our feelings did not help the healing process there would not be so many therapists in the business. Stay open and honest with friends and family. Share details of your emotions promotes healing.

Action:

Moving forward with your life means having the will to act. On days that they would rather pull the covers over your head, force yourself out of bed. Put one foot in front of others because every movement is moving forward and is in a direction that you want to move forward. Get up, go ahead and get on with your life. Start with small steps, and will soon be moving forward by leaps and bounds.

Belief:

There is no healing without the belief that he can heal. Belief in ourselves and our ability to weather any storm is our greatest tool when it comes to move through a time of adversity. Be patient, kind and loving with yourself. Push any insecurities you aside and believe in its jurisdiction. If the odds seem against you, if you feel that you aren't going to do, go against the odds. Develop discipline, push all negative self-talk freaked out and believe that we can become who you want and live the life you want.

Hone your new skills; make it part of your daily life. Opening, action and belief in yourself and never fail to take you through adversity in your life. One day you'll look back and realize that all the pain and challenges you have experienced during the divorce gave way to some of your greatest accomplishment.


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Sunday, April 24, 2011

Love is not the solution to marital problems

I had an "aha" moment the other day, when talking to a client to find a solution to his marital problems. She had a list of "things", which has made her irritating. None of which were worth ending a marriage and the dismantling of a family.

Then she says to me, "I'm not in love with him." And it struck me, was not able to see the solution of the problem, because she was basing her desire to divorce on a feeling ... the feeling of romantic love. I began immediately to hum the old song, "What's Love Got to do with" and wondering why people expect to marry and to feel constantly "in love".

There is a difference between romantic love and love involved. Nearly 30 years ago, Elaine Hatfield wrote a book (A New Look at Love) on the theme of love in which she compared and contrasted with the idea of "passionate love and companionate love."... .post continued


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What are the main causes of divorce?

This is an opinion based article, written after years of working with clients. There is no scientific research to what I'm about to share thoughts and opinions, only that I have gathered during my career as a trainer/consultant of divorce.

I hear people say are often divorced because of infidelity or "growing apart", or better yet, "I fell out of love." I've often wondered if these people cheat, grown in a different direction or fall love never think of what I have there … to the point of divorce.

As or even better, because people go from happily married to divorced? Something happens between these two points and has little to do with infidelity or fall of love and everything to do with the two people who are a party to the marriage.

The leading causes of divorce: Laziness:

People don't want to work at the wedding. There is a wrong belief that marriage will make us happy. As if the marriage is a separate entity, something outside of ourselves that survive and thrive with little input from a husband and wife.

Women plan huge weddings; bridal showers to throw and go into marriage have no idea what marriage is. men find a woman, worship and work to take care of only to find himself married to someone who just wants more and then a little more after that.

What happens when they both become disillusioned with their marriage? Begin to look outside themselves to define problems in the marriage instead of watching the situation and asking, "what can I do to make things better?"

Blame seems to be the path of least resistance. It is easier to blame a spouse or a marriage in general than to assume responsibility for how they are living within their marriage, and that any changes that may need to allow a marriage to flourish.

People are too lazy to make self-exploration, learn better ability to report and put the personal effort required in a marriage. Bottom line, marriage takes the hard work and if you aren't busy working hard a marriage won't last.

Lack of communication skills:

Pure and simple, people do not know how to talk to each other and know even less. The most important conversations people have are with a spouse, but they put so little effort wisely express their feelings openly and listening to their spouse.

It is also common for spouses want to avoid the conversation fear that will cause them pain or their spouse. If it is unable to communicate, manages to solve marital problems. The easiest way to build trust in a conjugal relationship is through the ability to open and honest communication. If TALKING and listening doesn't become a habit there is no hope.

High expectations:

As Sam Walton said, "great expectations are the key to everything" unless of course we are talking about marriage. Expectations and laziness can go hand in hand when it comes to predicting whether a marriage ends in divorce.

The woman who bought the expensive wedding gown probably also has very high expectations of marriage. Men and women make a lot of assumptions when it comes to marriage and what to expect from a wedding. These hypotheses are based on many variables and problems arise when the result (marriage) does not satisfy the assumptions or expectations.

Marital expectations rarely aligns with the reality of what life is like inside the marriage. I'll give you an example of unmet expectations from my marriage. Women are taught by society that men want sex, that men think about sex and that sex is just second nature to men. According to the company, if you marry a man you can expect that the man wants sex with you.

I married a man who has defined its own rules when it came to sex. He did not think about sex, it was second nature to him and because he married a woman who thinks her husband her sexual desire is superfluous to say that there have been problems in the marriage, problems that lead to divorce.

If he had talked to me before the wedding, his lack of desire for sex would not marry him. You see, this is where communication and expectations play a role in the outcome of weddings. Communication before marriage can hold down any one may have unrealistic expectations of marriage.

In conclusion, it is my belief that divorce is not about infidelity or unhappiness. Divorce can be and is avoided by those who are willing to work hard at the wedding, those who know how to communicate effectively and those whose expectations are realistic.

Nine times out of ten if a husband or wife betrays them cheating due to problems in the marriage. Problems that could have been resolved if the work has been done, there had been communication, and realistic expectations. The same applies to those who say that "grew apart" or "fell out of love." Marriages are to be powered, if not fall victim to a myriad of problems. We are nurturing your marriage?


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What happens if I cannot pay the taxes?

You have just finished preparing your tax return and notice that you owe Uncle Sam a hefty sum, but can not afford to pay. You're going to jail? Probably not. Can make the realization that you can't afford to pay taxes feel uncomfortable, but don't worry, there are some actions you can take to remedy the situation.

Even if you don't have enough money to pay the taxes you owe, you need to send in your return within the period of deposit. While there is a bit of a penalty for late payment, the penalty for filing late is much more serious. So, no matter what the situation is, file taxes on time.

If you have $ 100 or $ 10,000, the first thing you should do is try to find possible sources to get this money. Consider the options available to you as the equity in your home, credit cards, savings, or cashing out paid time off to work. There are a lot of potential sources of money, but some may end up costing even more in additional interest.

While it is better to pay the taxes owed in full and on time, there are times when you just need to get your next paycheck or wait a couple of weeks until the money is available. If you filed your taxes on time, the IRS will send you a letter in the mail detailing how much you owe plus any further interest.

If you know that you have the money shortly after the term of deposit can have meaning only to wait until you send the invoice and pay it later, as the interest you pay will be relatively low compared to money with another source of funding. This certainly should not be a long-term solution and your goal should be to pay the IRS as soon as possible.

The Government, just like anyone else, prefer to have money for a period of time instead of nothing at all, so they have a floor installment is available when you can't pay in full. To request an installment plan, you should use the form 9465. You can also set this plan to make a direct debit from a bank account to make the process even easier.

Therefore, you can't find the money and you can't even get on an installment plan, what are my options? A final option offered by the IRS is called an offer in compromise. Keep in mind, this is only for extreme circumstances.

If you require an offer in compromise, you can offer to make a payment of a lump sum or fixed payments for a short period of time. This process requires that you have a complete personal financial statement and an application fee of $ 150 in addition to form 656.

These offers are evaluated on a case-by-case basis and may or may not be approved. If the IRS determines the information that you have provided that you are unable to pay the amount in full, the offer can be accepted. Although it is accepted, you agree to pay taxes in full and on time for a period of five years, once established.

Pay taxes that you owe is very important, so it is vital to explore all options before jumping to conclusions. Most importantly, file your return in time to avoid late filing penalty. Then, take the time to consider how realistic is it for you to pay taxes and what options are at your disposal.


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