Or allow yourself to believe that children need in their lives. Don't ever get to the point that, seeing your children is more painful than not seeing them. If you are a non-custodial parent and dealing with this pain then suck it up. The long-term consequences and the negative impact of not having their parent in their lives beyond the emotional pain she feels.
If your spouse has left and filed for divorce it is time for you to take action. Don't sit and cry in your beer hoping that he will return. Get a lawyer and do what you must do to protect yourself legally. There will be plenty of time to cry in your beer later. Also, if your spouse changed his/her mind that are soon to come back no matter what actions you take. If no return will be protected at least alone and more than likely you will have money to buy all that beer will be weeping.
Never having the chance to forgive:
A ruthless heart is the biggest obstacle to moving past divorce and on a rich and fulfilling life. If you cannot forgive you will never be able to do nothing but make and suffer the consequences.
I wrote articles on what a person should do, if they are going through a divorce. I have given information on how to protect your interest, as cope with divorce and how to move to a new life and new relationship after the divorce.
This article consists of a list of things that a person should never do during a divorce. Every thing above I've seen made over and over again from customers and have assisted in my experience with divorce. I hope that helps any recognize list of behaviors are exhibiting and making necessary changes so that the divorce does not turn into a long drawn battle at issue.