Couples who have become disenchanted with their marriage, but are not ready to make a permanent step have the option of divorce or a legal separation or separation proof.
I am of the belief that all States should have divorce laws that require a period of "separation" or living apart before a legal divorce may be filed. The decision to divorce can be piloted by negative emotions that get in the way of making a rational choice.
Time away from marriage and spouses can sometimes clear thinking and help the reality intrude into the idea of being single again and all the wonders that come with fancy flying solo.
John and Amanda had been married for 16 years when John went out of the country on business for two months. John came to love the freedom and time away from the responsibility of being a married man.
Once returned to the American John filed for divorce from Amanda and moved into their own apartment. He loved life and his freedom until Amanda started dating, he was seriously involved with someone six months after the divorce was final.
Suddenly, John has had to face the reality of his wife with another man and another man living and helping to raise her children. And this is when he began to regret his move to divorce so quickly. If John had taken time away from her wedding through a separation test there is a strong possibility that her marriage would survive, and he would not live with the pain of his actions.
Regardless of why you feel the need to divorce is in your best interest to test, trial or a legal separation before the dissolution of all your wedding.
What is the difference between a test and legal separation?
A trial separation is an informal agreement between the two spouses to live apart. There are no legal agreements involved, lawyers or judges. During a legal separation a couple decides to live separately and uses a family court's Prosecutor to draw up a legal separation agreement that outlines the issues such as child custody, who pays the Bills, who lives where and duration of separation.
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Cons: trial separation
I would suggest that each couple involved in either a trial or legal separation marital/family profession seek advice during the period of separation. Time apart may help cool negative emotions, but do not teach relationship skills that will be needed because if you don't learn a new way of dealing with marital problems, the same problems will surface again.